why me

We tend to absorb our beliefs from our parents, teachers, friends, media, life experiences, books, etc. Some of what we believe may sound right, but in reality, our views might be inaccurate or too narrowly defined. We have bought into many ideas and concepts that distort correct thinking and actually work against us. For example, we have learned untruths that cause us to live within the role of the victim—either a victim of circumstances or of our past. These erred beliefs cause us to cry out in pain, “Why me?”

God’s answer is that we are not victims—we are victors! God said we can trust him in everything and that every event in our lives should be counted as joy (James 1:2). He has also told us he will cause good to come out of every situation, for those who love him (Romans 8:28). When we ask, “Why me?” it’s really because we don’t believe God. Our belief system opposes God, so we feel singled out and victimized.

Most of us believe, at least on some level, that we need to understand everything. We need to know WHY. When we don’t, we may feel like God has betrayed us in some way. In reality, it’s not God who is confusing us or betraying us, it is our own belief system. All those inconsistent beliefs cause us to question God’s fairness in what we’re experiencing.

As you reflect on your situation, here’s a story that might provide guidance.

Instead of asking God “Why me?” Try asking Him “What are you trying to teach me, Lord?”